At least I think they’re perfect. Am I close or way off?
Okay, I have to admit – these are just some of the things I’d like to receive or buy for myself for Christmas. And birthdays. And other special occasions. Or for no other reason at all.
I consider myself an introvert (although when I look online, there seems to be different definitions and stereotypes). But even if you and I don’t end up labelling ourselves as one, these presents can also apply to any other -verts. It’s just that I think they suit those who love to spend time on their own, with no overwhelming and energy-sapping distractions. That includes you, people. 😊
Check out this list and tell me if you agree (or disagree). Give them to your fellow introverts – or better yet, to yourself.
#1 A nice chair
A recliner. A designer chair. A rocking chair. A cushion you can place in a corner. Do not underestimate the power of a good and comfortable seat. Think about your butt, your back, your well-being. Imagine sitting on it after a long day’s work, when you want to watch a movie (or two), when you want to read a book, when you want to enjoy your drink… or when you just want to daydream and look out the window. It’s a great and reliable piece of furniture when you don’t feel like lying in bed just yet.
Always a winner in my book. (Sorry, I just had to add that in.) 😁 Give them a bunch of e-books, paperbacks and hardbacks of their choosing (of course – who wants to get books with themes they’re not into?) to keep them occupied for days, weeks! They won’t say no. Books are an escape – and a wonderful one, at that.
#3 Subscriptions, subscription plans, subscription boxes
Your favourite coffee for a year? Yes, please. How about skincare? Definitely. Plants? Why not? Pet supplies and accessories? Count me in. Subscriptions and subscription boxes now come in all shapes and sizes. You get a customised and curated selection of treats every month – what’s not to love? It’ll help you feel positive and excited as you’ll always have something new to look forward to.
It doesn’t have to be new, either. Maybe you have an existing subscription that’s up for renewal, or you wish could be taken care of? 😉
#4 An all-expense-paid (or some-expenses-paid) solo trip
If only we all had such generous family and friends. Hehehe. Seriously, if you have the budget and you can afford to give this to a loved one, I’m pretty sure it will be greatly appreciated. You’ll be loved forever!
It also makes me think: Where should we travel next? (When it’s possible to, that is.)
Travelling solo can be a life-changing experience. You get to decide what time you want to wake up, where you want to go, how long you want to stay in one place… and you can calmly hear your thoughts in the process. You can stop, observe and learn things at your own pace. That’s pretty rare in this crazy, stressful world.
It’s up to you to figure stuff out and it’s scary – but it also feels amazing when it all works out. And even when it doesn’t!
Once you’ve travelled solo, you probably wouldn’t want to travel any other way.
#5 A staycation
If an all-expense-paid solo trip with planes and hotels is too much, opt for a staycation. A spa holiday. A few nights and meals at a hotel within your city. Wait, do you really know your city? Come up with an itinerary where you can explore places you’ve never been to.
#6 A gourmet meal delivery
Or just any delicious meals that can be conveniently delivered, actually.
So why eat out? Thanks to your thoughtful gift (yes, you have to be the one to call and arrange it for them), they can spend a cosy night in with – how many courses are we eyeing? – a set of delectable dishes they’ll remember for quite a while.
If the restaurant accepts reservations and they’re game to dine in, go for it. Dining solo may seem scary and challenging to some, but sometimes you need to go on a date with yourself. Try it. 😉
#7 A donation to their chosen cause
There’s a charity or organisation that’s close to their heart – which would likely sing once they find out you’ve contributed something towards their activities and progress. Or maybe there’s a cause that they’ve been wanting to help for so long, but their budget hasn’t exactly allowed them to. Feel free to step in.
#8 A journal
It’s never too late to start – or resume – journalling.
Notebooks and pens are always welcome. It’s almost therapeutic to write down your thoughts and many lists. Or doodles. I also feel like it’s much better to use pen and paper instead of typing it all out. Your ideas come out crystal-clear… and refreshingly honest.
You might also want to add in…
#9 Accessories, gadgets, equipment and other items related to their hobbies, or how they spend their quiet time
Headphones for gaming or listening to music and podcasts. Gardening tools. Puzzles. Supplies for arts and crafts. Rare finds to add to their prized collections. Anything that cancels out the noise and helps them focus on themselves, and what they love, in peace.
#10 Anything that can make their lives easier
Maybe they need something fixed? Something that only you with your special set of skills can solve? How about running their errands? Cooking and meal-prepping for them? Volunteering with them? A meaningful conversation where you listen to them talk about the issues they care about?
Here’s a bonus:
#11 Whatever else they want
Ask them. Go ahead. If they could ask for anything as a gift (within reason, of course), what would it be?
You can also ask them which of the above they’d like. You need to, actually. You need hints and clues – unless you know them so well you don’t have to. For example: Do you know which destination they’d love to travel to for their solo trip? Is there a fine-dining restaurant they’ve been dying to try?
Surprises are fun, but if that surprise gift doesn’t really fit them perfectly – it’s okay or so-so, just good and nice – then they might enjoy it… enough. But if they get what they want and wish for and need, there’s a much better chance they’ll use it and savour the experience fully. 🙂
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They’ve created worlds and stories that you can’t help but love and be immersed in. I’ve seen them classified as urban fantasy, science fiction, fantasy and romantic fiction, but don’t let this stop you from trying their work. You get magic, monsters, aliens, gods, history, ancient beliefs, action, romance, triumphs and tragedies, comedy, and so much more. The characters feel real, like they could exist. I read their books again and again. They’re fun. 😊
With Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, it’s like a fellow introvert is talking to me like a mentor, a colleague, a friend – someone who understands and gets me, and explains to me in amazing, grounded detail why I’m me, and why it’s alright (or more than alright) to be me.
I love her drawings and words, and I can relate to what she says. I think your introvert friend, sibling, coworker, etc will appreciate receiving her The Introvert Activity Book: Draw It, Make It, Write It (Because You'd Never Say It Out Loud), as well as her colourful and insightful illustrated books. They’ll laugh and think and say, “Hey, that’s me” or “Me too.”
I have other books in mind, but I’ll stop here for now. 😊
I once searched for “classical music solo” and “classical solo violin”, and came across Hilary Hahn. I’ve been listening to her when I’m writing or trying to feel inspired.
I love Hilary Hahn plays Bach: Violin Sonatas Nos.1 &2; Partita No.1, Hilary Hahn: Plays Higdon & Tchaikovsky Violin Concertos, and Paris. She has other albums too; don’t worry, they’re on my list.
On another note: A few years ago, I read this really thick book of biographies of great classical composers such as Mozart, Bach and Beethoven – but I can’t remember the title. But it was great. I’ve been thinking about it for a while. I need to get that book again. (I borrowed it from the library.)
Hear me out. 😬
I get it. You may not be into K-pop and/or boy bands. But I can tell you that they’re the one group that I found myself rather (happily) obsessed with. Once you discover them, and watch their music videos and interviews, and listen to their music, you’ll fall down the EXO rabbit hole and you wouldn’t want to get out. Their talent, their personalities, their sense of humour, style and fan service… you’ll be addicted in no time.
Their most recent album is Don’t Fight The Feeling, and the song I have on repeat is “Paradise”. If you’re a fan (hello, EXO-Ls), everything they release is a must-have. But I always find myself listening to the Love Shot (repackage) and Obsession albums more often. Plus their solo and sub-unit albums too. As I write this, Kai’s second album will be out by the end of the month.
• Charles and Ray Eames
I love designer chairs. I know I will never be able to afford them, and even if I did or managed to, I would probably only buy one. Or two. 😁
I don’t encourage you to buy them either – they’re expensive, and if you’re not into them, you’d think they’re not worth it. But I just want to share my designer-chair dreams with someone. Check for photos online: Do they look familiar? Well, there are a lot of knockoffs now. If you choose to buy similar designs from a nearby shop at a much more affordable price, then go for it.
I’ve been using Pilot for over 20 years now, maybe? Around that span of time. (And that just makes me feel old.) I feel inspired to write more when I’m using them, and when I see how pretty my handwriting looks with them. 😊
I also feel like I’m going to get lucky whenever I use them, for some strange reason. Does that make sense?
These are always in my bag and on my desk:
#1 Pilot G2 Premium Refillable & Retractable Rolling Ball Gel Pens
#2 Pilot Precise V5 Stick Liquid Ink Rolling Ball Stick Pens
If someone offered to sign up and/or pay for any of your subscriptions for a year as a gift, would you take it? I think you should, and gladly. 😁 It could help you out.
Sometimes it’s the simple, straightforward gifts that make an impact and a difference. And it doesn’t take much to make someone genuinely happy.
Speaking of simple and straightforward
Time. Being able to spend your time the way you want to, and for things that are meaningful to you, is a gift. And not a lot of people are fortunate to have this. I hope you think about time, and your time, more carefully from this point on.
On a positive end note: Advanced Merry Christmas! 🎄 (Or happy birthday!)